Tuesday, October 16, 2012
Influenster and the Single Mom
So being a single mom it's nice to spoil yourself every now and again. And what better way that to do it for free. I have recently subscribed to influenster.com and recieved my first box. Not only did I recieve amazing samples of products some were even full sized products that I might never have tried before and that I have fallen in love with. I wait excitedly for them to tell me when I will get my next box and wonder what new suprises it will bring. I encourage everyone to check out this sight. It is amazing.
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Splitting Up Summer Vacations
Ok to start this off I am going to state that my family goes back home every summer for about a month. We have done this since I was little. My son's father knows this. The only time I didn't was the years I was living there.
So why is it he acts surprised every time I bring it up that I am taking Jonny with me? Every year this is a fight. I have never once argued with him about taking Jonny on his family's vacations. This year after a big fight I finally got him to agree on Jonny being with me for the full month by letting him have the full month after. Which is no big deal. I am a fair person. The whole arguement started though because I told him we were planning on being gone for a month but if he didn't want Jonny gone for that long I was ok with him flying Jonny home.
He told it wasn't fair that he would have to pay for the plane ticket. That since I was the one going on vacation I should pay for it. Umm hello your the one who wants him home. WHY should I pay? I am completely content with my son staying with me the entire month.
I really shouldn't be surprised though. This is coming from the man who told me since he makes more money he should claim Jonny for taxes every year cuz he'll get more money back. (not give me any, just him and his wife would get more)! I make less money so I need every penny of my return I can get thank you. You don't need the money as bad as I do. You make more money then me and so does your wife. And it doesn't matter what you think it's court ordered to claim him on alternate years anyway.
Gotta love people who try to be intelligent when they are not.
So why is it he acts surprised every time I bring it up that I am taking Jonny with me? Every year this is a fight. I have never once argued with him about taking Jonny on his family's vacations. This year after a big fight I finally got him to agree on Jonny being with me for the full month by letting him have the full month after. Which is no big deal. I am a fair person. The whole arguement started though because I told him we were planning on being gone for a month but if he didn't want Jonny gone for that long I was ok with him flying Jonny home.
He told it wasn't fair that he would have to pay for the plane ticket. That since I was the one going on vacation I should pay for it. Umm hello your the one who wants him home. WHY should I pay? I am completely content with my son staying with me the entire month.
I really shouldn't be surprised though. This is coming from the man who told me since he makes more money he should claim Jonny for taxes every year cuz he'll get more money back. (not give me any, just him and his wife would get more)! I make less money so I need every penny of my return I can get thank you. You don't need the money as bad as I do. You make more money then me and so does your wife. And it doesn't matter what you think it's court ordered to claim him on alternate years anyway.
Gotta love people who try to be intelligent when they are not.
Monday, May 2, 2011
Growing Up Way Too Soon
So the first couple of years went by with no major issues. Cuts, bruises, the occasional "I want to pull my hair out" moments happened of course. But all in all raising Jonny was easy then. He is now 7 and in the first grade. Let me tell you school was the first issue I had with my son.
Preschool was at a school close to my house, about ten minutes away. I was ok with this. It was a good school for the most part. Teachers were nice and very understanding. My son was not exactly an average child we began to realize. Jonny had was is called inconstanance. It is an issue with not knowing he has to use the bathroom until it is urgent. Regardless to say this caused many accidents. He was potty trained but some of the teachers didn't understand that this was a medical condition. They felt he was just being lazy. NOPE! Sorry but he just didn't feel the need until to late.
Ontop of that I also started to notice some warning signs about Jonny that hit close to home. I have suffered with ADHD my whole life and remember all the things said about me. I couldn't sit still, I had a hard time focusing, people were constantly thinking I was ignoring them when I really just had no clue they were even there. All this and more I saw in my son. So it was of to see the Doc. Sure enough he takes after his mom poor thing. This was when he was 4-5 I noticed. Trying to get Dad and Step Mom to listen he finally went to see a doctor about it at 5-6. We are still in the fine tuning the meds stage. But he is doing majorly better in class now.
That is the other issue I am having. He is now enrolled in school over thirty mins from my house. I didn't not enroll him here his Dad did. Which I am still trying to figure out how since I still have sole legal and physical custody. (His Dad has him every other week but that is what he and I worked out outside of courts but I still have custody). Pissed me off though. I understand that they live in Gilroy and they think Morgan Hill is half way between San Jose and Gilroy. It is not half way between our houses though. And his Dad drives to San Fransico everyday for work. Umm last time I checked San Jose was between Gilroy and there so why did we have to change schools? Wait for it.....He did not want his wife having to drive all the way to San Jose on the days she would pick up Jonny with there new baby. So wait, it's ok for me to drive that distance with my son but not for her to drive it with theirs? I worked in Milpitas when he first came up with this idea which is thirty minutes from my house in the opposite direction. Which means half an hour to Jonny's school then an hour from there to work. Then an hour back out to pick him up and an hour home. That is three hours a day. An extra two just because he doesn't want to half to get off the freeway in the morning when he drives and so that his new baby doesn't have to be in the car as long. So I told him since I was now tripling my commute he was paying for all of daycare. Still not an even compensation (have you seen gas prices) but hey it's something.
Jonny is now loosing that little kid look and starting to look more like a preteen more and more each day. I know he is only going to be in the second grade but I realized that he has two years till he's 10 and I am just not ok with this. STOP GROWING UP SO FAST. I am not ready for a teenager anytime soon. lol.
Preschool was at a school close to my house, about ten minutes away. I was ok with this. It was a good school for the most part. Teachers were nice and very understanding. My son was not exactly an average child we began to realize. Jonny had was is called inconstanance. It is an issue with not knowing he has to use the bathroom until it is urgent. Regardless to say this caused many accidents. He was potty trained but some of the teachers didn't understand that this was a medical condition. They felt he was just being lazy. NOPE! Sorry but he just didn't feel the need until to late.
Ontop of that I also started to notice some warning signs about Jonny that hit close to home. I have suffered with ADHD my whole life and remember all the things said about me. I couldn't sit still, I had a hard time focusing, people were constantly thinking I was ignoring them when I really just had no clue they were even there. All this and more I saw in my son. So it was of to see the Doc. Sure enough he takes after his mom poor thing. This was when he was 4-5 I noticed. Trying to get Dad and Step Mom to listen he finally went to see a doctor about it at 5-6. We are still in the fine tuning the meds stage. But he is doing majorly better in class now.
That is the other issue I am having. He is now enrolled in school over thirty mins from my house. I didn't not enroll him here his Dad did. Which I am still trying to figure out how since I still have sole legal and physical custody. (His Dad has him every other week but that is what he and I worked out outside of courts but I still have custody). Pissed me off though. I understand that they live in Gilroy and they think Morgan Hill is half way between San Jose and Gilroy. It is not half way between our houses though. And his Dad drives to San Fransico everyday for work. Umm last time I checked San Jose was between Gilroy and there so why did we have to change schools? Wait for it.....He did not want his wife having to drive all the way to San Jose on the days she would pick up Jonny with there new baby. So wait, it's ok for me to drive that distance with my son but not for her to drive it with theirs? I worked in Milpitas when he first came up with this idea which is thirty minutes from my house in the opposite direction. Which means half an hour to Jonny's school then an hour from there to work. Then an hour back out to pick him up and an hour home. That is three hours a day. An extra two just because he doesn't want to half to get off the freeway in the morning when he drives and so that his new baby doesn't have to be in the car as long. So I told him since I was now tripling my commute he was paying for all of daycare. Still not an even compensation (have you seen gas prices) but hey it's something.
Jonny is now loosing that little kid look and starting to look more like a preteen more and more each day. I know he is only going to be in the second grade but I realized that he has two years till he's 10 and I am just not ok with this. STOP GROWING UP SO FAST. I am not ready for a teenager anytime soon. lol.
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
In the Beginning
I never understood fully what being a single mom meant before I had my son. Everyone always talks of how hard it is to raise a child on your own. I did get that part. As a single mom I would have to do the work of two parents....on top of everything else I had to do. I am the sole income, the sole homemaker, the sole cleaner, cooker, tear drier, and heart mender. Everything for my son I had to do myself. This isn't saying my family didn't help. Or that his father doesn't either. Most days this is a life saver. Others....well lets just say my hair used to be a lot thicker.
The thing most people don't get about being a single parent is that with every down there is an up. For every tear your child sheds most likely there are so many more smiles. Jonny is that way. He has always been such a happy baby and child. The joy I felt the first time he smiled at me made everything I had gone through up until then worth every pain. Well let me start at the beginning of the story.
Though many will look down on me for it, Jonny's father and I weren't dating let a lone married. We had been friends but that was all. One night (and I will admit to there being alcohol involved) was all there was. A month later I found out I was pregnant. Pregnant? How was I supposed to raise a child? I was still living at home. I had just dropped out of college and even though I was working it was not really enough to support myself let alone both a child and me. To say I was depressed would have been an understatement. But being as stubborn as I am I knew I would only be able to live with one option. I would keep my child. No matter what happened.
I moved out of my house, even moved out of state to some place cheaper to live, cuz lets face it California is way over priced. Everything was going pretty well. Then one night I ended up curled up on the floor of the bathroom feeling as though my insides were tearing themselves apart. Of course my family all thought I was miscarrying. Luckily for me I just had gallstones. Unluckily, the doctors pussyfooted around until it was too late and I had to wait till after I had the baby to have my gallbladder removed. So I spent the next six months in the ER every other night.
Well everything else about the pregnancy and birth was pretty much normal. So was the first year of Jonny's life. We bonded well and like I said he was a happy baby. Slept through the night almost to the night I brought him home. It wasn't till after I ended up having to move back in with my parents that I started to have issues. ......
The thing most people don't get about being a single parent is that with every down there is an up. For every tear your child sheds most likely there are so many more smiles. Jonny is that way. He has always been such a happy baby and child. The joy I felt the first time he smiled at me made everything I had gone through up until then worth every pain. Well let me start at the beginning of the story.
Though many will look down on me for it, Jonny's father and I weren't dating let a lone married. We had been friends but that was all. One night (and I will admit to there being alcohol involved) was all there was. A month later I found out I was pregnant. Pregnant? How was I supposed to raise a child? I was still living at home. I had just dropped out of college and even though I was working it was not really enough to support myself let alone both a child and me. To say I was depressed would have been an understatement. But being as stubborn as I am I knew I would only be able to live with one option. I would keep my child. No matter what happened.
I moved out of my house, even moved out of state to some place cheaper to live, cuz lets face it California is way over priced. Everything was going pretty well. Then one night I ended up curled up on the floor of the bathroom feeling as though my insides were tearing themselves apart. Of course my family all thought I was miscarrying. Luckily for me I just had gallstones. Unluckily, the doctors pussyfooted around until it was too late and I had to wait till after I had the baby to have my gallbladder removed. So I spent the next six months in the ER every other night.
Well everything else about the pregnancy and birth was pretty much normal. So was the first year of Jonny's life. We bonded well and like I said he was a happy baby. Slept through the night almost to the night I brought him home. It wasn't till after I ended up having to move back in with my parents that I started to have issues. ......
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